Blogs

About 4 years ago, we moved to the Coolangatta on the Gold Coast in Australia. I wanted a part time job doing IT while I got my business and self sorted out.

I’d assumed that ‘if a business wanted to employ someone, they’d advertise’ and ‘no one will want to put you on unless you work full time’. I ignored both of these and used a different technique. I approached businesses directly.

I made two phone calls and turned up at two businesses in person and asked them for a job. Out of those four enquiries, I was offered two jobs.

It turned out, both businesses had been considering putting someone on to help out with their busy workload but hadn’t had time to advertise. Not only that, both of them only wanted someone for two to three days a week.

Sometimes it’s powerful to ignore your assumptions.

I’ve been putting off writing a blog for weeks. I’ll be honest – I’m waiting for something and that something is the perfect blog topic and the most perfectly written blog. I’m waiting to be struck by inspiration, for it to feel right and waiting to be sure it is a blog worth writing.

If I continue to wait, I’ll get nothing done. No blogs. Nothing published. Life will not change. I will not get what I’m going for, which hurts more than publishing a blog that might be wrong.

So, here it is, not perfect but it is a blog.

Is there something you are putting off?

Being comfortable is not a measure of certainty or that something good is going to happen – it is an indication that you are operating within the bounds you always have.

Similarly, if the thought of some action or a certain situation is making you feel uncomfortable, it is not that something bad or unpredictable is going to happen (and therefore needs to be avoided) – it is an indicator that you are dong something you haven’t done before.

If you want something in life you’ve never had before, you need to do something you’ve never done before.

[First published in the Tweed Valley Weekly on 3rd May 2018]

“It’s such a surreal feeling walking into a room knowing everyone in there has cut someone’s head off.”

It was one of the possibilities on my recent Northeast India Unplanned ‘wing-it’ trip. Running a trip like that with nothing planned – you never know what is going to happen. Of all the things we did though – the rhino safaris, exploring the world’s second largest river island and visiting one of the beautiful tea estates of Assam – the time we spent with the headhunters was the highlight.

Once notorious for their headhunting and famous for their facial tattoos, the Konyak tribe live in a remote corner of northeast India. The largest of the 17 tribes in the state of Nagaland, they once fought for control over the land, instilling fear into their enemies by taking their heads and proudly displaying them on the walls and doorways of their homes as a reminder of their strength and power. Today though, as a group of men in their 80s and 90s and with only about 30 remaining, they’re part of a disappearing world.

Ducking under the doorway, we stepped into the dark, smoke filled morung, a village hall of sorts and we were instantly transported back in time. On the wall were the various tribal weapons used long ago. In the middle of the room was a small fire around which 4 figures sat, each with traditional headdress, over-sized ear lobes and the famous tattooed face.

They greeted us warmly, offered small stools and invited us to join them by the fire. After the small talk was out of the way, with our guide translating, they asked us if we had any questions. I asked them about their faces.

One of the men then described how he had to lay on his back for an entire day with the queen of the tribe using a thorn from a local tree and a blue pigment to adorn his face. He spoke of the excruciating pain he suffered during the tattooing process – a ritual reserved for those warriors after they returned with their first head.

All too soon, we were on our way again with a long drive in front of us to reach Majuli – the river island. It’s an experience I’ll never forget. Next time we’ll stay for the tea and biscuits!

For those who are interested, I’m off there again in January. Please contact me on journeys@somespacetobreathe.com for details.